Do hungry men prefer heavier women?

8-09-2006 @6:06PM Diane Howard said... Common sense should tell us that being overweight by 40-50 lbs or more is UNhealthy. That has been established.Perhaps obesity does not CAUSE disease, but it certainly adds to its complications.Look around you, there are more " fat " people than ever. When I grew up, a really fat kid was relatively rare. We were so much more active...Thats just a fact. I say this as an overweight woman of 62. I know I feel better physically ,when I am not heavy.Extra weight will at some point, make your joints wear out faster and make you ache more than you have to. Sure, some will escape this fate, but, come on, lets be honest & realistic !
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8-09-2006 @6:07PM Cam said... Adorable story, Abbey. Its bad enough when (mostly) men will give looks to 'fat chicks' like myself, but when your doctors diss you because you are fat, and have had that happen -- since the advent of HMO's I think they think they can get away with more. It's dangerous to be fat in more ways than one. I had dental infections that I didn't know I had, which eventually led to my liver telling me about it by blowing my midsection to the point where I looked like a human beach ball -- all of this information I found out on my own with no help from the doctors and had to try and save myself after I would read up on my symptoms, and would happen upon information about vitamins and supplements that could help me. CoQ10 saved my life. All throughout the time I was blown up like a balloon, the stomach pains would be so strong. Doctors didn't care...I would go to bed with my phone in my hand and cuddling my bible. Scared I would really die. When I met my husband over 20 years ago, I wore a size 11/12. After 7 years of keeping the weight off and having lost it using one of the shake diets (which I know now is not healthy), got married -- got pregnant - weight went on - again. We were a bad influence on one another) - I have slowly lost some of the weight, but some of the weight is from ascites -- my liver sloughing off cells from the stress of the systemic infection. When you see a person with a 'weight' problem, they could be suffering from a lack of appropriate care from their health care "professionals" - please do not judge.
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8-09-2006 @6:13PM Sam said... We need more people like fatkatluver...they make a good point. It couldn't have been said better than myself! I am proud to be 220 and healthy!! :) I don't care if anyone thinks I'm unattractive or attractive. I think I am beautiful! :)
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8-09-2006 @6:14PM Tk said... As a good friend of mine said time and time again:
Built for comfort, not for speed.
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8-09-2006 @6:16PM Sam said... And we can start treating people better by accepting ourselves.....
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8-09-2006 @6:21PM Setting the Record Straight said... FatKatLuvr,
You should really check up on the facts before you post them. Obesity does cause disease and illness, the rate of obesity is rapidly increasing, and we are seeing extremely frightening trends in the weight and health of our children.
I could rattle off statistics and research about the topic, but seeing as reading 8 paragraph-long posts is quite boring, I won't. I'm not necessarily saying that being considered overweight is unhealthy, because there are exceptions. For example, using BMI to determine such things does not produce sound results, because factors such as muscle mass are not taken into consideration. And while there is nothing wrong with being happy regardless of your weight, or being attracted to heavy people, there is something wrong with trying to convince people that being overweight or obese does not cause disease and other health risks. Regardless of how happy a person is with their weight, it is NOT HEALTHY to be above a normal weight.
You seem to think you are quite an expert. I'd like to know where you earned the degree that gives you the right to question the health knowledge of experts. I earned my degree in Exercise Science from Illinois State University.
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8-09-2006 @6:23PM Meela said... I think the study is bs also, but for a different reason than most of the ones that have been posted. In my entire life- I'm 36- probably 97% of the men I have known have always said "I like a woman I can hang on to. I like a woman with some substance." I think for the most part, men are not looking for wispy, anorexic-looking waifs. I don't think that every man wants a 180+ pounder, but men like boobs and butts and if a woman weighs 98 lbs. and she's 5'10" you know those items are going to be lacking. Myself, I am a fatty, but that hasn't stopped me from doing the physical activities that I want and I have never had a problem finding guys that want to be with me. My problem was I couldn't find any that I really wanted to be with until I met my husband. He's 28, 6'2" and 215 lbs., runs 3-5 miles a day, and he is NOT into fat women, he's into ME fat or thin. As for FatKatLover's comments- some of them are right on, but the truth is being overweight is EXTREMELY hard on the human body. It's very stressful to the knees, ankles, and back. Your heart, kidneys, etc. have to work a whole lot harder to support a larger body. And some diseases truly are brought on by extra weight- I know this for a fact because I am a recently diagnosed type 2 diabetic and in my case it is 100% due to my weight as no one else in my family is or has ever been diabetic. Plus my doctor told me point blank, "Your weight is your problem. Take off 80 lbs. or so and the diabetes will not be an issue for you." I'm working on it, but it's much easier said than done! It is true that fat people are discriminated against, women MUCH more so than men. It's disgusting. The only way I know of to overcome it is to stand up for yourself and let people know that you are a valuable human being, not just a size 18 (or whatever) and do NOT let people walk all over you. You are worth sooo much more than that and it's up to you to let everyone know about it.
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8-09-2006 @6:23PM Elle said... You all are worried about weight and who will love you. I'm overweight, according to them, but I'm more concerned about my soul. So I say, get right with God and everything else will follow.
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8-09-2006 @6:26PM julie wisler said... I am 5'3 and weigh 165 pounds. I have never had a problem getting a date. I think a lot of it has to do with your personality. People say I have a great personality, great eyes and some say a great butt. But I think personality goes a long way, regardless of your weight. I have struggled with my weight all my life. I have just started working out again the last few weeks and it does make me feel better. I am married and my husband seems to love me just the way I am. I am still working on losing weight but it's a long process.
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8-09-2006 @6:29PM Jill said... FAT is completely GROSS! Show some pride in your bodies.
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8-09-2006 @6:39PM Kara said... They only thing I want to say is just because people are fat doesn't mean they should be put in front of the firing squad! I mean you wouldn't critisize someone who was mentally challeneged(and if u did your an ass) so why be mean to someone who's fat? They look different, so what, everyone is different from everyone else and if we weren't it'd be a very boring world! I mean we would all be George W. Bush or Paris Hilton or someone else who you wouldn't want to be like! So if your thin than good for you, you don't have to deal with the ridicule and nasty looks and comments that are heard by alot of fat people. And if your fat good for you too, hold your head high cause the only opion that matters is yours! Don't listen to anyone with negative comments, there opions don't matter!!
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8-09-2006 @6:47PM cindy said... I am a scientist, and when I say scientist, I'm talking about biology, chemistry, physics. These researchers are psychologists, not scientists, none of their findings are based on scientific fact. They only asked a small group of men, and if someone else was to do this study, I bet they would not come up with the same results. Which means that this study is not reproducable, and hence would never be taken seriously by the scientific community. Be happy with who you are no matter what shape, size, weight, or height. I have noticied that men and women are more attracted to those that exude confidence. So be confident in who you are, and think little of what weight "society" believes we should conform to.
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8-09-2006 @6:53PM SV said... I just wanted to commend everyone who has posted in this forum for their good mindset about weight or that they are trying to improve their self-confidence.
No matter what anybody looks like, we shouldn't let anyone, including the media,make us feel "less than" or "not worthy."
Weight is truly the last acceptable form of predjudice.
I heard an African-American man refer to an overweight man as "Slim" or "Tiny."
I heard a gay person make fun of an overweight person.
I heard a recovering alcoholic make fun of an overweight person.
I heard a physically handicapped person make fun of an overweight person.
I am none of these things, but I am overweight.

Do you really think any of these people would accept it if someone made fun of them? The answer is NO--they would be outraged. Why doesn't an overweight person have the right to become outraged, as well? Society seems to think we should always play the "jolly, self-deprecating fat person" in the face of predjudice and people are always surprised when we express our displeasure.

I am really glad to see all of the positive posts here and I applaud all of you.
FatKatLuvr, your posts were terrific and you rock!!
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8-09-2006 @6:57PM SHERRII said... Well I am attacted to large everything . big fish I HAVE HUGE GOLD FISH , PARROT FISH ,OSCARS ..ECT. and large well rounded horses . large well rounded dog ,fat cats ( large kitties or well rounded , & i am large brested and full body that fits my shape so i've been labeled VOLUPTUOUS & as well as pleasantly plump & very sexy looking large round blue eyes , long down to my seat blonde hair , shaplye legs sexy toes & pretty feet & small dainty hands .I love large men and always have , they are huggable and you dont have to shake the sheets out in the morning to find them ,& im an excellent cook ( that always helps ) I think well rounded animals and men & wemen are the look of being well cared for and have a home .but i love all men as well but i will try to put some weight on them so they are not so bony when I hug em.sonshine sherrii southeasttexas gal
p.s. i starved my self when i was younger and my ~EX~husband cheated on me with fat girls , some were older some were younger but they were all chubby or wayyyy overweight , he said he did it cuz number 2 has to try harder & it was a complinment to them since he was married to me and i was so pretty ~ he was just helping them feel better about thierselves he claimed ~ i still go rid of the jerk sheesh . go figure ?im not going to starve my self for anyone anymore !!
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8-09-2006 @7:05PM curvygirl said... I agree with SexyThickGrrl...eat healthy to support your body (and that means EAT!) and move your body to keep the blood moving and your heart healthy. And don't listen to the lies. If you want to lose weight, then do it, but not because of some societal expectation.
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8-09-2006 @7:10PM tara said... i am 5'6 and weigh 115. i eat anything i want or like and i stay slim. i do exercise 3 times a week. i do pilates. i don't know if it's the pilates or my 3 yr old son that keeps me fit. i love myself and my body. i feel like if your happy with yourself screw what others think. i have skinny friends and thick friends and i love them all the same!
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8-09-2006 @7:12PM sonja evans said... I work in the medical field. Regardless of what you see or say, being fat is not healthy. I'm thin, by choice, I'm attractive and I'm a pretty healthy 50 year old. Most women my age, that are fat seem to look older and have numerous health problems. I do work out 3 times a week and I was blessed at the age of 42 with a son.(helps keep me young looking and very active) I don't have any problems attracting the opposite sex, but I'm very selective. I would never date a big man.Thick maybe!!!

Thin is in and always will be in. You have the choice to add a few pounds when you want it. Men that like (love) fat women I challenge you to try a slimgoody. Once you go thin you can only win. You just might like us. (SMILE)
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8-09-2006 @7:14PM Judith said... Well, after reading some of the comments posted, I just had to add mine.

I've been overweight since the age of 16. And teased, tormented, and ostracized....the whole nine yards. It wasn't until I reached the age of 40 that I finally decided if people couldn't or wouldn't like me based on something exterior....the heck with them since I didn't want people around me anymore who weren't positive.

I turn 52 on Saturday and have a boyfriend who loves me as I am. My current weight is 180 lbs and I'm short 5ft 1in. My boyfriend is 6ft 6in tall so we do have a Mutt and Jeff thing going.

My point is this....it doesn't matter where you come from, what age you are, or how much you weigh in the grand scheme of things. We are ALL worthy of love and respect every last one of us.

If people don't like you because you're overweight tell them where to go. Find people who will love you for your inner spirit.

I wrote a poem in 1993 that I consider my philosophy on life called "True Beauty" "True beauty is a beacon shining even in the darkest night....and indeed it's rare to find someone willing to try and find that shining light."

Lets all try that....it would be a much better world don't you think?

My last comment is......my guy tells me every day he loves me and how wonderful he thinks I am.

Me....just as I am not as how anyone else wants me to be.
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8-09-2006 @7:17PM Susan said... This is a very difficult area in my life. People say "oh what a pretty face" . Well, guess what people! LOL I am a very beautiful person and woman. I have a unique and large body. I take a lot of medication which has made me this way. I have some health problems which make it difficult for me to excercise a lot. I try to watch portion size, and sugar and white flour intake. I am proud of my many accomplishments in my life. I am a college graduate, with a B.S. in Business. I am married to a wonderful man, for five years now. We live in a beautiful home,where there is love and acceptance. The outside world is so judgmental of my size, and other family members. It is very sad, and very trying. This study is truly a bunch of garbage. Large people are wonderful human beings, with much more to offer than just a pretty face. A lot of the time, it is the looks and whispers that are rude and hurtful; or what they do not do for you or what they say to you. People are sometimes very rude and hurtful, just because I am large. Sometimes it really gets me down. I do a lot of praying, and positive thinking. Thanks.
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